My family's making me suicidal, but I'm stuck here. What to do with my life, I need advice desperately?
I know this is long, but I'm very desperate for help, and I don't have any friends to go to with my problems... - Im 20 and live at home with my family while Im job searching. I had to leave college, because I couldnt afford it any longer (Im absolutely broke and cant pay for it & no fin. aid is available except taking out large loans) - While living at home, Im having tons of family problems with my mom. To the point where she's tried smacking me around, because I think she sees what she wants to see. She flipped out at me when i was looking in our freezer for my frozen meal & random prepackaged food she over-stuffed in our freezer fell out & i couldnt catch it, so she thinks I'm 'throwing' food around intentionally. I dont how she can come up with something so preposterous & how that would even make sense in her mind. :S - My brother is just as hateful as my mom and says hurtful things like "no one likes you" whenever I come out of my room to grab a drink or if I walk by him. He bullies me like this almost daily. - The hatred and negativity from living here got so bad that I emailed the only 2 people who I know for a temporary place to stay so that I can get away. Although neither replied back so Im literally stuck here, broke, and job searching with no results. I want to work desperately so I can move out. - Im stressed out and cant fall asleep at night for the last 2 weeks. Im crying almost every night and cant control how hopeless I feel about my future. - Also, Im starving and lost 7 lbs in 2 weeks. My mom stopped buying food for me (Ive been a vegetarian for 10 years) when she grocery shops for my family. Its like i dont even exist and she spends my dads money on food for everyone but me. - The only positive in my life is my *one* real friend from Canada, who said he can help me and I can stay with him while I get my life straightened out. But moving to Canada is impossible, Im in the US and the paperwork + the fees + the time to process the paperwork makes it so that I cant even see my only friend when I really need to. - Im thinking of seriously joining the military because its the only way I'll be able to get away from my toxic 'family,' get some food, and a FT place to work... - Ive been depressed for years, but never this severely depressed... I feel like Ive lost everything, my hearts been ripped out, Im crippled emotionally and mentally, and I have no way out of this situation. I want to become a nurse, but I cant pay for it on a minimum wage job and I CAN NOT still live here for 2-3 more years while taking nursing classes. I honestly feel like without a nursing degree, I have no future because Im shy and that kills my chances of getting most jobs. What can I do? Take the plunge and join the military? I have no friends to stay with, I cant find a FT job to pay rent. Im broke and cant move to Canada. I cant stay here any longer because it's crippling me and tearing me down day by day.
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Start volunteering --at hospitals, the rescue mission, help feed the homeless at shelters, clinics. Write essays about why you want to become a nurse. Apply to nursing schools and include on your application your volunteer work, your struggles against obstacles in your life, etc. If you can,take any prerequisite courses you need or retake them to get your GPA up. If you apply at the bigger universities, or private ones, or ones in underserved areas, you may find that it is completely tuition free to those who qualify and are accepted (a little known secret). (volunteering HELPS) Also the government has "forgiveable loans" for those who care to find out about them to ease the nursing shortage. There is always a way if you are willing to do the work and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Getting out there and helping others is the best way to help yourself, and to see how small your troubles are in comparision. Ignore your brothers taunts and realize that these are tough times for everyone, including your mom. Try to smile and know that all things are temporary. Appreciate that you have a family who do love you, even if it is a dysfunctional family, and just try to get along and dont let things bother you so much. I had a similar family so I spent most Christmases when I was single working at the hospital where I felt appreciated, and finally left them all behind in cold Canada. Strive to be loving and generous to all, even those who are mean---smile, and they will soften. Kill them with kindness until you can move on! Good luck & Happy holidays---Watch Its a Wonderful Life! .
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Have you tried a shelter? Sometimes they will work with you for a certain period of time. I would not go into the military unless you are ready for a committment and please don't let that recruter talk you into BS. They always do. However they do pay for college and houseing. You have more options than you think sweetie, just hang in there. I have been in your shoes. I left home when I was 16yrs old. I had to for my physical and mental well being. Do what you got to do. Just remember its harder on the outside because you have to pay your own way. Good luck
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Have you confronted your family about how you're feeling what so ever? I know it wouldn't be easy to do, but it could possibly change things? Other family members you could stay with there? Good luck with the job hunt, it definitely takes time.. As for depression and such, are you on any medication or have you talked to Doctors about it? You may want to see about speaking to a Doctor and a Councellor about your issues until things improve a bit..Is welfare an option? I know it's not the best one, but it might be your only choice if you need out that bad until you find a job.. Good luck with everything, hold your head up!
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1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you responsible- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also. There are 3 types of abusive people/parents. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and get high on being mean, and thats why they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that there is no medical science in what they do. They do not draw blood to test for imbalances. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. Abuse makes children grow up with all types of so called "Mental Problems" -Drinking, Cutting, OCD, Voices etc. or turns them into abusers Jesus name and forgiveness is important to feel better and have a new life. Google- "Inside the Mind of an Abuser" Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies". Talk to me. I have some questions for you Source(s): Experience with people feeling better on a repeated basis.
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Have you seen these ads on tv for nursing school, like intellitec, and other vocational schools? If you want to be a nurse, joining the military is one thing, but I think if you think yoru parents are abusive, they will be more so. Why not call a school like that and get a nursing assistant degree , then go to work and get your own place and take classes for nursing . Here is a self help version of a profound healing method you can apply to all your pain and remove daily the problems before bed. eftuniverse.com click on 'get started free'.
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