My Religion Wont Let Me live Alone?
Im a muslim woman living in canada, i hate living with my family...i want to get my nursing degree and get a condo. everytime i bring this up my mother tells me if i go off alone will have a heart attack...I love my family but I've always had this thing for independency. I feel like im trapped, Apparently a woman is not suppost to get married untill her husband takes her away.(arranged marriage) I'M NOT GETTING FUCKING MARRIED...but i feel like if i left, God will punish me and my mother will end up sick..I need some advice.
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Listen to this... even though we have different religions I'm sure your God loves you, right? Take in to consideration that there are mothers that try to live their lives through their daughters lives. Sometimes mother's can be too controlling and possesive. Your God put you on this earth for a reason. And your mother doesn't get to decide what that reason is. Do what you have to do honey. You have to be happy too...
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Im muslim too.. and that is not true... muslim women are allowed to live alone sister.. I know a lot who do.. but maybe you can move in with some muslim girls to make your parents fell better about it.
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Religion could end up owning your life. We are only here for a short time, if it doesn't hurt any other, do whatever you need to do. Just be cool, baby, be cool.
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they are old fashioned...give them time they need to get use to the era...or they will get use to your way of life...you go girl live your life with no regrets God will see no bad in it..
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Other Muslim women have been able to succeed on their own in North America. There is no reason why you can't be successful as well. Cultural adaptation and assimilation can be really tough on people. It seems Muslims have the most challenging time trying to assimilate.
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Find some nice Muslim women to room with you. Perhaps that will help. You must do in life what will ultimately help you become an effective, helpful, and productive member of society and even your religion. Nursing seems a very logical and wise choice. I say go for it but do what you can so your mother doesn't freak out too badly.
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God does not punish people for wanting to live their lives. I respect your religion, but this is 2008. People who still indulge in arranged marriages are controlling and manipulative. Do what's in your heart. Go and live your life. Your Mom will be just fine, and when she sees what incredible things you have accomplished, you will make her very proud.
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Trials and tribulations you have...... Sacrificial, life changing decisions must be made. If we are trying to be followers of God and look at situations like, 'is this what God would do?', then your family should at the least come to a half way point with you and a compromise. Though you know your family means well, and you may not be able to change their mind. You may have to leave home and explore your challenge of being a nurse without contact with your family for a little while. If your family is not in support of you, remember God is in support of you if you are doing something righteous and not evil!... Try talking to your family in depth about this before any further decisions. You may get married meeting someone while getting your nursing degree.
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You will NOT be punished by GOD if your mother becomes ill. You must remember this is how you were RAISED to think. People get sick on their own and sometimes no one knows what caused it. It is time for you to stand up for yourself and become INDEPENDENT----------Your mother is telling you she will have a heart attack in order to make you feel bad and feel sorry for her. Tell her to STOP her nonsense as you have a life of your own to live. You say you live in Canada. Girls of all cultures and religions are VERY independent there as in the USA. Your mother needs to let you live your own life. Go for it. Plus should you marry, hopefully it will be someone you have fallen in love with and not an arranged marriage.
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